If you've broken your spouses trust you may not know how deep that wound is. Yes, it may have been something big like an affair or it may have been what you thought was a little lie, but either way you have deeply hurt your spouse.
When trust is broken it breaks a part of your spouse to, it causes them more stress than you think and to doubt you even when they don't want to. Believe it or not if they are trying to work through it with you then they want to trust you. It's not easy on either spouse, the spouse who lost trust is emotional and constantly worried while the other is stressed and probably aggervated because they feel like they are constantly being doubted (which is probably true).
From personal experience I know what it's like to lose trust for your spouse. It can make you worry and stress so much that you are physically sick, your constantly questioning everything and wanting to ask a million questions. I wanted a complete play by play of everything my husband had done when I wasn't around and when I didn't get it I would start worrying even more thinking he was hiding something. The smallest change of story made me think he was hiding something huge.
If you have broken trust between your spouse and yourself you are going to have to be very understanding, because they have just been hurt by someone they love more than they ever thought they could. It will take time to forgive you and start to work through it and even longer to build the trust. Be prepared, it could take weeks,months, or even a year or two. Yes they will forgive you but they will never forget.
Am I saying it's easy on you no. It is going to be a ruff spot in your relationship but you can come out even stronger.
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