Should a job come before your marriage?

Let's say you have a good job, it pays better than most, the hours aren't to bad but it's affecting your marriage. 

Ok first, ask your spouse why they are uncomfortable with your job. Can you change the reasons your spouse is feeling neglected or uncomfortable? Maybe talk more or work less hours. 

If the problem is bigger like an affair with a coworker or something similar and your spouse can not be comfortable with you working at your current job what do you do? If it's an affair or something similar and your spouse can not tolerate you working with them switch positions, work a different shift, if you can not do these maybe you should look into another job opportunity. Your spouse should always come before your job or money. Yes you worry about taking a pay cut maybe you have a family to feed. It is better to take a pay cut and keep your family together than to feed your kids with a child support check or alone. 

Money is a need yes but many of us put it before our spouses. Sure we all have things we want and want to save for but if you love someone you will never be able to replace them with shiney new toys or money. Money will mean nothing on your deathbed but having someone their to hold your hand will.

Cheating

What is cheating? Is it only sex? No, cheating can be emotional or physical. If you've planned out how you could cheat and who you would cheat with then you've already crossed a very dangerous line. When you plan how and who you've already cheated. I know that sounds extreme but when you think about it to that extent your heart has already cheated and you've already put a wedge between you and your partner. 

Sure looking at another woman/man and finding them attractive is normal, but once you cross the line into how you can do it and get away with it you need to talk to your partner and confess. Work through it together to find a solution. 

Your partner is going to want to know why? Be patient and talk calmly about it. Your partner is going to be hurt and need to ask questions and they will need an explanation. Yes it's hard! 

You may ask why confess? Why go through all the trouble if your partner will never know?

Well they will know I'm a marriage you can not keep secrets, they put a wedge between you and the one you love even if your loved one is in the dark. You know you did it and when your hiding something you can't give your all to someone. A marriage will only last so long with secrets.